The Role of Music In Romance

Music… Have you ever thought of the role music plays in your life and what is it about music that melts hearts and brings people together in celebration?
You can ask anyone what their favorite songs are and regardless of age, gender, cultural background or social status you’ll always get an answer. Indeed, music plays a large part in both courtship and activities that promote social unity across multiple cultures and geographies.
Even the scientists have given attention to such a topic as “The Role of Music in Romance”. The conclusion is the following: skills like musical ability are an attraction mechanism.
But what about musical taste and compatibility? He prefers Billie Joe Armstrong to Billie Holiday whereas she’d rather laugh with Jack Black than rock with Jack White! Can these two people stay tuned to the same station, or will their different musical interests introduce too much tension?
Psychologists say: ”Sharing a similar approach to processing new information will likely prove much more important to long-term satisfaction than whether the specific foci of interests are similar”. In other words if your Beatles-loving girlfriend doesn’t like the new Coldplay album then as long as you share the same general interest in music and the desire to learn, in this case both your relationship and music collection will be enriched.
No one will deny that music is just another language and is used to communicate interest during courtship, equal to verbal and nonverbal communication. It is a powerful tool to put words and sounds to our own emotions and allows us to understand how each other is thinking or feeling.

Long distance relationships - can they work?

Do you think that long distance relationships can work out?? Keeping a relationship alive across the miles is no easy task. You can get to know someone over the phone and Internet, but there are too many gaps that can only be filled by face to face interaction; and over an extended period. We are very attracted to each other and feel we are compatible, but how do you relocate across the country for a "maybe”. Long distance relationships are becoming more common as people travel far away for work, study, or reasons beyond their control.

Men and women have an equally hard time dealing with the separation that’s involved in a long-distance relationship.

COMMUNICATION is the key. Successful long distance relationships require daily interaction and sharing (the 'relating' to each other bit). Phones, email, texting, postal mail, and web cams... you must use them all. . Let them know about what you've been doing and thinking because in that way they will feel like they are there with you. But remember : missing a day does not indicate relationships’ jeopardy. Discuss your communication needs and limits. It's likely that one partner will need more communication more than the other. Get ready to be flexible.

Be honest. The best way to true intimacy and connection especially in a long distance relationship is through "total honesty" to each other in the fullest sense of the words. It goes without say that telling your whole truth can be difficult and even scary, but it will result in the kind of relationship that you really want-- a relationship where all the cards are laid in the table. Learn to trust your partner unconditionally. Trust is a very fundamental aspect in any relationship. That is because having trust in a relationship takes away doubt. All romantic relationships can experience jealousy and fears about cheating, but generally long distance relationships take longer to resolve those feelings. Maintain your own high self-esteem and high self-worth. Keep doing the things that you enjoy doing. You are a valuable, attractive, interesting person.

Show your soul through your eyes

Wise people say eyes are the mirror to the soul. Our eyes reflect our fears and our hopes. It is always easier to communicate with people who keep good eye contact during the conversation, primarily because when they look at you they show you that they are listening to what you have to say. From your point for view, you can easily judge whether what you say excites the person you are talking to, upsets them or makes them bored. This quick judgment allows you to adjust the conversation accordingly.

Women like to make this judgment quickly, as it is important to them to know what you think while they are talking to you. Therefore, eye contact is a very important part of the communication package that you offer them. Furthermore, you should bear in mind that women have an extraordinary ability to see things while they are not looking directly at you. Therefore, if she looks away or puts her eyes down, do not think that a quick check of your watch will not be noticed. It will be, so don’t do anything that you do not wish to be seen (this especially includes looking at other women).

Before I explain how to use eye contact to your advantage, it is important to outline what eye contact actually means. Looking directly at a person and into their eyes, without checking out immediate surroundings is keeping eye contact. Looking at a person without blinking is staring (which most women find too weird to cope with). Looking into a woman’s eyes without hearing a word that she has to say is considered staring as well as is generally not approved of.

How to impress a lady?

You won’t get a pretty girls true attention until she sees how important you could be for her. Allow her to get to the heart of your mystery-self: be polite, show her that you are a good listener and always have a more to you than meets the eye. Furthermore, stay in a good mood, be self-confident and quick-witted. The above is the key to ensure that she thinks that she has met the man of her dreams.

Many guys are sure that their presence is enough! This is a mistake. If you are very good looking and have a fantastic physique, a girl might feel in heaven when she is in your presence. She will be proud being the girlfriend of such a handsome and strong man. YES, in that case you can have a success, BUT…. if she finds out that your wonderful body and beautiful face are the only things that you have to offer, your relationship will not last very long …

What to wear and How to wear

No one will deny that when a woman meets a man for the first time, the main thing that attracts us is his appearance. Even those with the kindest soul and greatest intellect unfortunately go unnoticed at first. If a man appears scruffy he will most likely not have a chance to prove to a woman all of his finest qualities. So what is the key to being attractive to a woman?

1) The main thing is that he should look neat and tidy. So don’t forget to shave and groom regularly. Look after your clothes and wardrobe, but don’t go overboard.

2) Remember that the “suit should fit”. You can have the right clothes but if they are too tight or too loose you project a poor image to the fairer sex.

3) If you wear a tie, try to blend the colors carefully with the shirt. Experiment with colors, but keep it tasteful.

4) All underwear should match!

5) Wear only a high-quality elegant watch. It looks as right with jeans as it does with your best suit. Remember that a watch is not a means to know the time but a style accessory.

6) Choose the appropriate color. Remember that light colors are better for summer and dark colors for winter. Chose colors that enhance your skin and eye color around the face in order not to look as if you haven’t slept the previous night.

7) One of the first things people notice when meeting you for the first time are your shoes. Would you like women to think you are sloppy and careless? Find the time to ensure your shoes look clean, stylish and properly shined at all times.

8) If you wear spectacles chose them according to your face. They can give you a stylish and intelligent appearance as well as spoil your whole image.

Remember that if you can add a charming smile to your elegant image, any woman will be impressed.

How to avoid the “emergency phone call” from her friends during your date?

We all have been in this scenario. We meet a girl, take her out and at the end of the dinner she gets a phone call and runs off, claiming that her friend just had an emergency and she needs to go off and help. We also know what that means – we will never see the girl again. If we do, it will be by accident and the conversation will be very short and uncomfortable.

In order to avoid these scenarios, we need to break down the whole date and understand where the girl’s decision to dump you comes from.

Starting from the beginning, you could have met her by accident, either in a public place or on a blind date. On your first meeting she indicated that she likes you and naturally you want to show off and therefore you invite her somewhere special. But you do not choose somewhere down to earth, rather you take her to an expensive café or restaurant. You chat, you laugh and it seems like you are forming a bond so you take it further and order something even more expensive, present her with some kind of surprise etc. However, it is then when the phone call comes through and she runs off leaving you with a large bill and no hope of seeing her again. You feel disappointed and out of pocket Now, if you want to know why she did that, you should look at yourself first rather than try to justify her reasons. You feel disappointed because you were expecting something, but why would you expect something? You have just met and both of you have the right to change your minds about each other. You also feel disappointed because you spent a lot of money trying to prove that you are macho. Well, if you were going to buy someone, then why did not you just tell her that. Instead, you were buying someone who was not prepared to be sold, so as far as she was concerned she still had the right to change her mind. That’s why you feel disappointed and cheated.

The reason why she left is because sometime during the dinner (or even earlier) she changed her mind. If you were not so consumed in trying to impress you would have noticed that. However, you did not and she did not know how to tell you. In order to avoid an uncomfortable situation she goes along with your plan but then starts to think of ways out that will not hurt your feelings. The emergency phone call seems to be the best solution, so she activates it at the end of the night.
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How to become a master of seduction?

Knowing how to seduce women doesn't come naturally for many men. In fact, it takes lots
of practice. So how do you get practice?
In many cultures, having an ability to seduce any woman is considered an art. When a man
has this ability this wakes emotions in women which if controlled carefully can lead to a
long term relationship.
Most men leave the powers of attraction to their natural abilities, hoping that what they
have to offer will be enough. However, as with any art form, practice makes the results
much more predictable and constant. In order to become a master of seduction, here are a
few hints and tips that you can use:
Make the woman emotionally excited. Friendly chit chat will not make any woman
emotionally excited enough to be seduced. Therefore, when the conversations start with
“You are so beautiful. What is your name? Can I buy you a drink?” this often leads to a
very fast conclusion to the conversation. Of course, you can still use the above
phrases, but the effectiveness of them is minimal. If you want to be effective, then make
her feel something emotionally. For example:
1. Share her emotions with her. Lead her to a conversation where she will tell you about
things that matter to her. Do not make the mistake of changing the subject to yourself or
asking lots of closed questions. Put yourself in her shoes, feel what she feels and carry
on the conversation on her wavelength. For example, if she starts mentioning her previous
relationship make the first step towards her emotions and say something along the
following lines: “So, you fell in love with him so deeply that you could look into his
eyes all day long. It’s a pity that this innocent feeling of first love stays so far in
the past. Do you think you can ever feel the same way again?”
2. Be seductive. A lot of “nice guys” are capable of being on the same emotional
wavelength as a woman. However, they also fall into the trap of being “just a friend”. In
order to avoid the “friends only” zone, you need to be seductive and the easiest way to
do this is to bring some sexiness into your conversations, while still projecting an
emotional connection to the woman. A correct balance of the two will allow you to attract
a woman, understand her and avoid the “friends only” zone.

Here is how you do that: do not break eye contact while talking to her; build up the
physical contact with her (it may start off with careful pat and develop into a touch of
the hands); use the speed of the conversation to let her know that you find her
attractive and flirt with her when appropriate. Try and develop a sexual tension between
the two of you – she will feel this as well. However, do not hurry the process, you need
to establish the emotional contact with her
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